Most people find themselves asking “What the Hell can I do to get my ex girlfriend back” following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to answer the question about “what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back” is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that strategies like this will have, is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life. And in how you perceive the subject of relationships. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as badly as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (don’t over do it) and show her that you are doing fine without her. This will inspire her to really rethink things.

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out “what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back”. Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

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Do you find that bloody depressing, or motivating and exciting? I want everyone out there to remember that this situation is entirely under YOUR control…

VALENTINE’S DAY is here again.

Do you find that bloody depressing, or motivating and exciting?

I want everyone out there to remember that this situation is entirely under YOUR control.

WOMEN are not the source of your feast or your famine. YOU are.

It’s easy to allow yourself to believe that your love life is under the control of “destiny” or some other vehicle of fate, because that allows us to cop out when we need to.

Hey, look, we’ve all done it. I STILL do it once in a while. It feels a lot better to believe that it’s not my fault.

Here’s a little quiz:

SITUATION: You’re in a bar or at a friend’s party, and you see a hot woman that you’d like to meet.

A) You walk over and comfortably start a conversation. She is put at ease, and you eventually get her number and a meeting setup the following week.
B) You walk over and uncomfortably try to start a conversation; she gets uneasy after a while and those dreaded uncomfortable silences creep in. She eventually tells you she has to get back to her friends and walks away.
C) You stay in your chair and find the reasons that she wouldn’t be right for you, never taking the risk of connecting with her.

B and C are what happens most of the time to most guys. And it reinforces your inertia the next time you get an opportunity to meet a woman. Do this enough times and you get trapped in what I call the “Downward Spiral.”

It’s like stage fright. Have you ever had to do something in front of people and find yourself with a serious case of nerves? You’re shaking for hours (if not days) before the event. I used to really HATE having to make a presentation. My legs would get really shaky, and my stomach would knot up.

It’s unnerving to do these new and different things, but you have to remember that you’ll have “butterflies” in your stomach until you get the hang of it. The trick is to get your butterflies to fly IN FORMATION. Make that energy work FOR you, not against you.

You see, once you learn enough about how this game works, you’ll feel a new sense of confidence. The nervousness will still be there for a little bit, until you get the hang of engaging in conversation and saying the things that have the right affect on a woman. But now it will give you POWER, not FEAR.

EVERYTHING you’ve done in your life was new and scary at one point.

Even WALKING was a challenge for you. I remember watching my sister try, using the coffee table as a crutch. She’d wobble and fall, and then keep trying it until she got it. Even if it meant a few dings on her forehead from falling.

We kept trying because we didn’t care about what other people thought. We just knew we had to succeed.

What happens to a lot of people is that they will turn down one of two paths in their lives:

PATH 1: They stop risking and trying, because that means that they MIGHT fail. They get addicted to protecting their Bubble of Comfort. They will usually find a way to avoid looking at it this way, though. They prefer to justify their failure in advance (i.e., never act because they already know what would happen), thus “saving” themselves the pain. Instead, they “save” themselves from success and a better life. They become terminally AVERAGE.

PATH 2: They keep risking and learning and growing. They begin to understand that if you’re NOT failing in life regularly, you’re NOT GROWING at all. They get a taste of the rewards of perseverance and learn one of life’s most unknown secrets: The best prizes in life are just an inch past your highest level of reluctance.

If you ever find yourself in a situation where you are afraid to act, ask yourself this one question: WHAT IS THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN? Then imagine it happening, and ACCEPT IT. Completely accept it and the consequences. Is it really THAT bad?

Once you do that, you’ll find that taking action is EASY.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be lonely or depressing ever again.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as “Secrets of the Alpha Male“, “Approach Women - NOW!“, “Alpha Immersion” and “Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion“.